I had a feeling this day would come sooner or later. The day someone would call me out for doing what I do. The day someone would tell me “A guy running a yuri blog is disturbing/creepy/irksome etc.”. I had subconsciously prepared myself for this day and will address the situation here and now. This is a serious post so no pictures.
This reminds me of a post I shared a while back by fellow yuri fan Cytrus detailing how the dated “Yuri is nothing but lesbian porn made for horny men” notion is an exaggeration. In a sense this post is a followup of that research. As mentioned in the introduction I was called out by someone saying that a man running a yuri blog is disturbing. Whether the person meant to offend me or not is irrelevant. What is relevant is the person’s message. What the person said was that it is wrong for me to run a yuri blog because of my gender. I get it. I understand that some people initially find it freaky for a straight man to talk about lesbian romance. However, when that man’s goal is to promote lesbian romance, in my case focusing on drawn, digital and animated formats, in a positive light every single time, showing as many interested people as possible yuri media that is not pornographic lesbian cartoons/comics/games but those telling tales of girls/women being attracted to or falling in love with one another, does his gender matter? When the message is a good one, why should a person’s gender be a defining/deciding factor? So by this opinion does that mean women are not allowed to talk about yaoi either? And if they are, why is it considered “safer” than when a man talks about yuri? That is why I brought up the link I mentioned above. The stigma of ” many men only seeing women as sexual stimulation and not human beings” still exists and it bothers me.
I know that there is yuri hentai out there but what some people have not yet grasped is that like live-action lesbian media, the yuri genre pertains to both romantic and sexual. The term shoujo-ai is used to differentiate the two and I know some people still need it to differentiate the romantic from the sexual Japanese lesbian content but by now most people have grasped the concept of yuri being used to signify all Japanese lesbian media in general.
I have been blogging (as of this post) for over four years now. In those four years people have come to respect my work and views. Why? Because they understand that when I talk about yuri I always do my best to honor, respect and appreciate the female characters, their journeys of being attracted to or falling in love with another woman. While I do show a preference for the romantic process over the sexual it is also known that I will not turn an eye on sexual yuri because lovemaking is part of most romantic relationships so long as the ones in love are willing after uniting. Besides I make sure to warn viewers whenever I discuss a yuri topic with not safe for work content in it. I also operate under the notion that my audience is aware that my content is PG-13 most of the time…unless they already informed their offspring about “the birds and the bees/the birds and the birds/the bees and the bees/the birds and the birds and the bees etc.”
I will conclude the post by saying this. I am a fan of yuri as a whole. I promote yuri and will continue doing so till I can no longer. I will always treat lesbians, real and fictional with honor and respect. There are people who understand this and for them and myself I will continue shining a positive light on the genre. Not everyone agrees with the shows I like but as far as yuri goes, many sense the sincerity in my words. That is why even though there are people who are bothered by my covering yuri because of the (thankfully weakening) stigma that all men see lesbianism solely as sexual stimulation and nothing more, I will not stop because I know all the thoughts I share on this blog are honest and sincere and do not belittle lesbians of any kind at all. You do not have to agree with my anime/manga/game views all the time but do not question my honesty.
For all the naysayers there are plenty of other yuri websites out there run by women for them to check out in order to feel less irked while reading. Sites like Lena K’s, Dr Animeniac’s, Yurinoboke, Jigoku der Himmel or the tried and true Okazu Yuricon to name a few.
So yeah there are indeed men out there who feel the same way about yuri and lesbianism as I do.